And Then There Were Three

What happens when you decide to expand your family from 2 to 3?  You're adding another person, do you just add that much more love and intimacy?  Or does the intimacy between the first 2 people somehow diminish?  Is there a way to maintain the original amount of intimacy and build on that solid foundation? 

That must be what people think when they decide to have a child, right?  That the child can only add to the love the family already shares.  That the bond between the original 2 lovers will envelope the new addition and protect her from anything that could (or has) ever hurt her.  That they can fold her into their love and she will become a part of what they already share.

This is my hope for my new family.  That my bond with J will remain as strong as ever and our new addition will fold into this foundation and be surrounded by the love and stability we already have together.



Or is it inevitable that by developing intimacy with someone new we will absolutely lose intimacy between each other?  Is it guaranteed that by being intimate with another person one of the original couple will feel left out?  Is this experiment a failure before it really gets started?


I guess all I can do is hope...and talk about it.  A lot.  If talking about things can solve all problems then I think we will be ok.  :-)